Book Review: Limping But Blessed

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Limping But Blessed: Wrestling with God after the Death of a Child

I stumbled upon this book on Instagram. It was recommended by a mother I follow. I feel like unexpected tragedy has been a theme on the outskirts of my life lately. I keep hearing about and seeing all these stories of people who are just chugging along living their ordinary lives one moment and then BAM! in a split second heartbreak slams them in the face and there is nothing they can do to go back. Life is different now. They had no warning that their lives might change and then it hits like a tsunami and they are just riding it out.

It kind of blows me away how quickly life can change and how much we really are not in control of things. It’s really not a question of if life will throw us some big curveball down the road. Life throws curveballs and no one is immune. The question isn’t if it’s when and how–how we will handle it. I bought Jason’s book on a whim and finished it quickly.

What I liked:

1-This book is easy to read. It feels like you’re having a conversation with someone or reading their journal. No jumbled up sentences or flowery language. My favorite books are those that feel like you’re learning about someone over a glass of wine and this one definitely felt like that.

2- I liked how REAL Jason was. I liked how he was vulnerable and didn’t feel pressured to wrap this story up with a bow. There was no “I struggled with God because my son died, but NOW I’ve figured it out and we are good.” Nope. He continues to struggle with God and has lots of unanswered questions and he may always struggle with God. But, that doesn’t mean he isn’t waking up each day and trying. He’s asking those questions and going to church and helping others and loving his family and praying and searching– and if we’re being honest I think that’s all God really wants, right? He loves us. He wants for us to love Him back. He wants for us to try. He knows what we are capable of and He does not ask for more than that.

3-I read my favorite quote of all time EVER in this book. I don’t know if this is a thing that I just so happened to miss and everyone else already knows this, but it made me lose my breath for a second when I read it: “You don’t have to move mountains, just pick up a pebble.” Woah. Wait. Wow. I love that. I love it so hard. I don’t know why I tend to always think of things as all or nothing. “I can either change someone’s life with my kindness or do absolutely nothing.” That’s a crazy way to think! I don’t need to change someone’s life everyday (thank God, because I’m so not). All I need to do is to pick up a pebble. A little kindness goes a long way: a note in the mail, a text, a meal dropped off, a “how are you” conversation. Little things. I need to do more of the pebble work!

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What I didn’t like: I think maybe this story could’ve been told more chronologically. There was a bit of jumping around in time and it was hard to follow his emotional timeline, but I bet when you go through something like that time tends to all fog together and you don’t know what’s what.

The verdict: I think this one is worth buying. It helped me to remember that life isn’t really all that tough if I miss a nap. Jason had some good God questions and he got some good God advice. He asked questions that I bet you’ve asked before (even if you haven’t been personally touched with tragedy) and he outlined what is (and what is not) helpful for those in the thick of sadness. You can buy the book here. Let me know what you think.

 

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The Verdict: Get a few friends (or maybe even just one friend) to read it with you–make some time to get together and chat about what struck you. Prepare yourself to read the author’s strong opinions on breastfeeding and working. As long as you can take what you can use and throw out the rest, I do think this book is worth the read.